A bride-to-be shared her list of wedding rules on TikTok, including no uninvited guests, most children aren’t allowed, and any questions that come up on the big day that must be directed to her mom.
Jasmine Cruz is engaged to be married and took to the social media platform to share her top 11 rules and preferences for the big day.
In the week since they were posted, her videos have gone viral, with commenters sharing their enthusiastic approval of her decision to skip the garter toss and let her bridesmaids choose their own dresses.
Jasmine Cruz is engaged to be married and took to TikTok to share her top 11 rules and preferences for the big day
This means that uninvited guests are not welcome, most children are not allowed in and any questions that arise on the big day must be directed to their mother
Jasmine’s first rule is soft: no children – with a few exceptions.
“I don’t want kids walking around unsupervised without their parents watching, that’s absolutely not going to happen,” she said.
“There are some exceptions. Most of my siblings are under 15 years old. About half of them. So you can come, as well as some out-of-towners who really can’t get babysitters for the whole weekend because they have to travel – of course they can bring their kids with them.
“You have to watch them though,” she added.
Her second rule is that no one can wear white — and it’s so important that she accidentally put it on her list twice.
“My bridesmaids already have specific instructions about dumping a whole bottle of red wine on you, so let’s just avoid that,” she said.
Her third rule is that her bridesmaids can choose their outfits as long as they are in the chosen color, Jasmine.
“If they want to wear a dress, a pantsuit – I just have to approve it and see it first just to make sure it’s flowing well. But they can basically wear whatever they want,” she said.
She’s decided to skip the garter toss and let her bridesmaids choose their own dresses
Her fourth rule is: If you haven’t been invited, you’re not welcome.
“I’ll write specifically on the invite how many plus A’s you’ll get, and that’s it. Don’t bring random people to my wedding. I gave you these plus ones for each [person] that I want at my wedding,” she continued.
For number five, she said she doesn’t plan on her husband taking off her garter and throwing it into the bachelor crowd.
‘That’s disgusting. I’ve had to kiss a man in public in front of all these people, now you want him to get under my dress and pretend to…” she said, pretending to choke.
Rule number six is less a rule and more a coincidence: All of her bridesmaids are LGBTQ.
Rule number seven is that she doesn’t want to be bothered with details on the wedding day – so her mom has creative control.
“Ask my mother. My mother has full creative freedom over everything. She designed my quinceañera and made it perfect, and we drove back and forth all day,” she said.
Her eighth rule is that all of her guests take full advantage of the open bar.
She also said any speeches that draw attention away from her and her groom – such as propositions are pregnancy announcements – are not allowed
“I want you to be drunk, I want you to be drunk,” she said, but added that this rule advances into number nine, which means you don’t drive home drunk.
“You can leave your cars there until the next morning – many thanks to my venue for that,” she said. “No drunk drivers.”
The penultimate rule is that their vendors are treated like guests during breaks.
That means they can eat, drink and even take home party favors and centerpieces.
Finally, she concludes, no “big announcements” are allowed.
“If you’re pregnant, keep it to yourself. If you want to propose, keep it to yourself. Don’t come to my anniversary and draw attention away from me and my husband. You’re being attacked,” she said.
Jasmine’s videos have garnered a ton of attention, with the first being viewed nearly two million times.
Jasmine also proudly showed off her engagement ring to curious onlookers
Several commenters chimed in to agree with some of their rules – notably skipping the garter toss
Several commenters agreed with some of their rules – notably skipping the garter toss.
“I love the garter rule. It’s really a disturbing thing to do in front of family,” one wrote.
“The garter is so weird. You got me getting up and trying to catch it at my sister’s wedding like I wanna do that?’ wrote another.
Others liked her no-kids rule, with one saying: “If they’re under 13, they won’t care what’s going on and they’d be bored.”
“The kids rule is very sensible,” said another, while a third wrote, “Kids don’t even like going to weddings.”
Another favorite was letting bridesmaids choose their own dresses.
Others liked her no-kids rule, while others approved of letting bridesmaids choose their own dresses
“Love the bridesmaid! I feel like they know their bodies best and that being confident is important to them too! said one.
However, she did receive some critical comments, which she responded to in a follow-up clip.
One critic oddly had an issue with her rule about bringing uninvited guests, writing: “Why don’t people want people to be all the better at their wedding like why not why don’t you have to be so stingy and rude? [sic].’
Jasmine explained that the wedding costs about $100 per person and “you wouldn’t buy just any random person a $100 meal.
‘We’ll buy two hundred of these. So we want to make sure that every coming person means something to us and that every coming person is treated right at our wedding,” she said.
